Buck Soup

Soup is part of my DNA. I’m from Eastern European peasant stock. There is nothing more emblematic of an agrarian peasant culture than soup. That’s because you can make soup out of anything; meat scraps, bones, anything green (cultivated or foraged) and of course, water. My parents weren’t from the old country, but my grandparents were. While soup is the food of peasants, like my grandparents, it was also the food of families during the great Depression. Soup was a staple of that generation. Growing up my parents didn’t have to worry about where there next meal was coming from. But they did however, come from very modest, very working class families. As such, they ate a lot of soup growing up. Soup fed a lot of people; it was nourishing, satisfying and didn’t cost a lot to make.

My strongest, single memory of my Baba (my grandmother) was her cooking; especially her soups. After the long drive to Baba’s house there was always a big, steaming caldron–yes, a really big pot–of home-made chicken noodle soup–and yes, the egg noodles were home-made as well. Everybody helped themselves to a bowl and some crusty bread. Then my father and Dede (my grandfather) would split and consume the rest of the caldron; easily one to two quarts apiece. (And my Dede could slurp soup with the best of the Japanese noodle suckers.) To say my Dad liked soup is the understatement of the century. My Mom used to say that “you could put a pot of steaming water in front of Buck and he’d eat, as long as you told him it was soup.” My Dad liked soup more than ducks like water.

Given our heritage you’d think Buck would be more partial to the Eastern European classics like borscht, czernina, and potato soup. He was to be sure. But the eastern dish he was most partial to was really eastern…far eastern, Chinese to be exact. He loved Hot and Sour soup. (His other favorite was eastern too, the east coast, that being oyster stew, but that’s for another day.) He could eat a whole pot at one sitting. My father was not a big man by today’s standards– 5’ 11”, 190 pounds. But, he could put away the Hot and Sour soup. I don’t know where it all went. My Dad could be characterized by a riff of an old blues tune, “if the river was hot and sour soup, and I was a diving duck. I’d dive to the bottom and eat my way up.” That was my Dad. The fact he grew up eating soup, you’d think he would have grown to hate it or at least tire of it. As a pretty successful business man you might think he would opt for more steak and less soup. It simply wasn’t the case. He never tired of soup. In fact, as he grew older he liked it even more. It is fitting that the last meal he had before he passed away at 91, was a bowl of soup. The Marx brothers got nothing on Buck Soup.

This is the recipe for Hot and Sour soup my Dad loved so much. I hope you enjoy it as much as he did.

Dann Balesky

A cloud called Harry

You would call him a scientist.
When you dedicate your life to search for something you may never find the answer to – that made my father a scientist. Apart from the lab, living a regimented life; a life of exactitude was the order of the day. From this perspective my father was a moderate rebel – he loved baseball.
We went to a Detroit Tigers game when I was 10 years old. I had never seen a big league game and I had never seen so many people in one place before. I had never felt the hope and disappointment of so many people before. It was a doubleheader with the Yankees. The Tigers got swept. My Dad never said anything, but I knew he was happy.
In the summer he wore permanent press short sleeve shirts. His 4 shirts were white, light blue, light green and yellow; then the rotation would replay itself.
I was always surprised he was such a big Yankees’ fan; especially growing up on the west coast. As a boy he put together a crystal radio set. He listened to the Yankees’ games on dreamy California summer nights.
Somehow, I found the timing odd when he died. It was just before the All Star game; just when the pennant races started to heat up. The Yankees had won it all the year before. I have a confession to make – I am relieved I wasn’t there when he died. I confess, I would not have wanted to be there to see him struggle in the chaos of trying to extend his expiring life. He was going to die that day. Maybe this means I was not a very good son and maintained that legacy as a father. Still I am thankful, I wasn’t there.
After the funeral, we returned to my parent’s home. I went from room to room, faster and faster. I went to every room in the house. Then I did it again. I thought I could find him. I considered my father to be a fairly thoughtful man; who may have cut himself the deal of a lifetime. He wasn’t really dead. We just couldn’t find him. He kept moving his existence quickly to another new location. When I would finally catch up to him; he’d look up at me with a wry smile and say, “You found me.” When I would ask him why or how he would turn and quietly go back to watching the ballgame.
I never had a conversation with my Dad that lasted more than 5 minutes. Actually, we never spoke for more than 90 seconds. He just wasn’t a talker.
To make up for this brevity, everyday I look up into the sky and pick out a cloud thinking that cloud is him. It’s like I finally found him in that room he was hiding in. On perfectly cloudless days, I figure he’s having a blue skies kind of day. Usually he’s the tiniest, fluffiest, wispiest cloud not with a cluster of other clouds; but alone and happy in his singularity. I might change my mind once or twice before I know, it’s really him. In keeping with the conciseness of our earthly conversations, I’ll simply say, “Hi Dad. I’m thinking about you today.”

My Dad’s name was Harry. 

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